The Vow Writing Guide
Your relationship feels like home—your vows should, too.
Learn how to craft timeless vows that lay the foundation for a lifetime of partnership.
Writing your vows should be one of the most exciting parts of planning your wedding.
Except instead of the effortless flow of beautiful prose you imagined. . .
You freeze as soon as you try to put pen to paper.
It feels impossible to write vows that don’t sound like everyone else’s.
And the worst part?
You crave vows that feel handcrafted and personal, but they inevitably sound AI-generated.
You pull classic quotes and cliche sentiments from online wedding forums, but none of it actually feels authentic to you.
You put it off until the very last minute, and end up staring at a blank page the night before your wedding in a panic.
Cookie-cutter vows don’t resonate with you—or us. Without a clear foundation to guide you, you’re utterly lost on where to begin.
We’ve got good news:Speaking from the heart isn’t so hard when you refocus on what matters.
Modern society encourages constant movement, productivity, and busyness—a trap that’s all too easy to fall into once you get engaged. After all, you do have an exciting, once-in-a-lifetime celebration to plan!
Except when you think about it. . .
This is the antithesis of the foundation on which your marriage should be built.
Marriage encourages you to slow down, pause, and reflect.
To go deeper. To tap into your thoughts, feelings, and emotions and share them with the person you love.
To always make an effort to come back to the core purpose and heart of your marriage.
This is why your vows are a cornerstone element of your wedding:
They are the words you’ll whisper to each other 5, 10, 15 years from now when you celebrate your anniversary.
Generic templates and boilerplate scripts won’t help you unlock your feelings, or the storytelling ability inside of you:
You need a way to reflect on your journey together and thoughtfully express your promises for the future of your marriage.
HERE'S THE THING:The wedding industry often forces you into boxes you don’t belong in.
It encourages you to prioritize things that don’t matter to you.
Spend money on trends you couldn’t care less about.
Focus on appearance and aesthetics over meaning.
It’s all too easy to get caught up in the neverending cycle of to-do’s, trying so desperately to get your event across the finish line that you forget the reason why you’re doing it.
You deserve the space and time to connect back to the purpose of your marriage; to dive into the deeper meaning behind the day you’re crafting—and all too often, that gets lost in the cycle of it all.
This means one thing:
It’s up to you to return to your purpose for the day, and to step forward into marriage on the same page as your partner.
It’s your job to set aside time to re-focus on the core of your commitment as you enter the next chapter of your relationship.
Your vows are a roadmap of promises you make to one another—only you can determine what that path looks like.
But it would be a little easier if you could feel supported in your journey, right?
Meet the Tapestry Team
Hi, I’m Kate! Founder, creative director, and one of many visionaries behind Tapestry Event Co.
Since 2017, Tapestry has helped nearly 400 incredible couples plan their wedding or elopement through modern, inclusive event planning services.
Our work is centered on building a successful foundation for marriage through the entire event planning experience, rather than simply executing a successful day and calling it good—because we know that your wedding day is only the beginning.
Honest, values-driven planning resources for the modern couple
With our intentional approach, we invite you to focus on what matters most and enter marriage with an open heart. Because all too often, planning resources restrict couples into boxes that don’t fit.
After decades of working with couples across various celebration styles, cultures, and values, we asked ourselves: What if we could distill our best advice into a resource for couples like you?
This is why we’ve created the ultimate resource for you to have in your back pocket:
THE VOW WRITING GUIDE
A resource for engaged couples eager to write vows with sacred promises that strengthen their bond and reflect their unique relationship.
Instead of giving you a rigid, fill-in-the-blank recipe to follow...
We’re handing you everything you need to create vows you’ll cherish forever.
Inside the vow writing guide, you’ll find:
Guided reflections & discussion questions to take the pressure off of knowing where to start
Straightforward, loosely-structured outline to build the foundation of your vows
“Promise Prompts” to spark writing ideas with ease
Sample language & formatting suggestions for inspired, empowered writing
Expert resources and recommendations to deepen your relationship and continue exploring your bond
Intentional opportunities to be vulnerable and make time for one another
Editable document for hassle-free creativity and collaboration
“I’ve already recommended it to all my engaged friends!
It was one of the best, if not THE best, investments we made in our elopement day. Truly, THANK YOU for making such an amazing tool for couples.”
- Zoe + Connor
A DIY resource with expert-level support
Here’s how we know the Vow Writing Guide is right for you…
You’ve spent time searching for the perfect resource to write your vows, but nothing has quite felt right. And at a certain point, it all starts to sound the same.
We know that you so badly crave the guidance of a professional in your corner, even though you aren’t ready to invest in a high-touch service—but guess what?
You deserve to declare your marriage legacy with confidence, no matter your budget.
Transform your wedding day with vows that capture your love story
With the Vow Writing Guide in hand, you’ll be able to:
Define the emotions and sentiments you want to communicate to your partner
Speak with conviction, flow, and confidence, trusting your words to convey the story of your love legacy
Convey your emotions and commitment, and clarify your promises moving forward
Translate your thoughts and emotions into cohesive, impactful words that leave an eternal mark on your partner’s heart
Set your marriage up for long-term success, and create a deeper level of connection to take into the rest of your life together
Quiet the noise of the world with meaningful conversations that help you return to the heart of your commitment
Slow down, pause, and create space to re-align with what really matters
Store your notes in one place and eliminate clutter, creating a safe and intentional space to pour out your heart
Because your vows shouldn’t just help you build your perfect wedding day:
They should build the foundation for your marriage legacy.
“I was floored at how our vows turned out.
Engaged friends, I highly recommend getting a copy of Tapestry Event Co.’s Cow Writing Workbook. [My husband] and I worked through it together in the weeks leading up to our 2021 vow renewal, and maybe I’m biased, but I was floored at how our vows turned out.”
-ARDITH D.Get instant access to
The Vow Writing Guide
Rather than a costly $300+ group workshop, we've created an affordable, easy-to-use digital guide that provides you with expert support, flexibility, and lifetime access.
We designed this 35-page guide to be part writing coach/part guided journal, helping you extract your feelings, clarify your promises, and reaffirm your commitment.
And the best part? You can treat the workbook itself as a keepsake to revisit on future anniversaries!
It’s more than just a guide that connects you to your partner on your wedding day:
It’s a milestone you can revisit for years to come.
One-time payment of $19
✔️ Digital PDF download
✔️ Editable, collaborative document
✔️ Guided reflections & discussion questions
✔️ Vow writing outline
✔️ Sample language and formatting
✔️ Expert resources & recommendations
Frequently Asked Questions
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Yes, but we kindly ask that you limit sharing to you and your partner and refrain from distributing it outside of your relationship.
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Most couples can complete this workbook in a few one-hour writing sessions, but the time required varies by individual. There is no right or wrong way to complete this! Spend as much or as little time as you feel you need to.
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Again, it depends on the person, but we recommend giving yourself at least 1 month to work through the exercises without feeling rushed.
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No, we provide you with comprehensive creative writing instruction. No foundation needed.
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We offer a Vow Writing Workshop for this exact reason, where you send us your drafts and spend an hour of 1:1 time with one of our expert officiants. We’ll review your vows in advance, offer writing advice, and make sure your vows are aligned where it matters most to you.
